How to deal with our opponent

It seems that there is an obstacle in the way of exploiting and using this capital in our country, which I intend to briefly address and present the solution that comes to my mind.
It is necessary to mention a point before that. The question may arise in your mind how and in what way I realized this problem. Am I just quoting this problem, that is, people have mentioned it, and I am speaking in their language? Have I done any scientific or academic research on this and am I now presenting the results of this research?
In response, I must say that after observing and paying attention to the behavior and speech of people with whom I have been in direct or indirect contact, I have reached this point. From paying attention to my own behavior to relatives, friends, fellow citizens, social activists and politicians, those with whom I have been in direct contact, and those whose actions and behavior are mediated or through the media. I have examined.
One of the cultural problems that hinders our progress, in my opinion, is that we can not take advantage of the talent and ability of those whose thoughts and beliefs are not like ours. We do not have the ability to define common interests with those who do not think and act like us. We can not win-win with our opponents. We do not have the ability to approach others and benefit from them without being influenced by the thoughts of others.
Why is this disability formed in us? What makes us unable to exploit the talents and abilities of our intellectual and ideological opponents? What is the view and vision in us that we are willing to stop the growth of the opponents at the cost of depriving them of their ability to grow and progress? Why do we act as if the person whose thoughts and opinions are different from ours are of no use?

It seems that there is an obstacle in the way of exploiting and using this capital in our country, which I intend to briefly address and present the solution that comes to my mind.
It is necessary to mention a point before that. The question may arise in your mind how and in what way I realized this problem. Am I just quoting this problem, that is, people have mentioned it, and I am speaking in their language? Have I done any scientific or academic research on this and am I now presenting the results of this research?
In response, I must say that after observing and paying attention to the behavior and speech of people with whom I have been in direct or indirect contact, I have reached this point. From paying attention to my own behavior to relatives, friends, fellow citizens, social activists and politicians, those with whom I have been in direct contact, and those whose actions and behavior are mediated or through the media. I have examined.
One of the cultural problems that hinders our progress, in my opinion, is that we can not take advantage of the talent and ability of those whose thoughts and beliefs are not like ours. We do not have the ability to define common interests with those who do not think and act like us. We can not win-win with our opponents. We do not have the ability to approach others and benefit from them without being influenced by the thoughts of others.
Why is this disability formed in us? What makes us unable to exploit the talents and abilities of our intellectual and ideological opponents? What is the view and vision in us that we are willing to stop the growth of the opponents at the cost of depriving them of their ability to grow and progress? Why do we act as if the person whose thoughts and opinions are different from ours are of no use?
In my opinion, the problem is that we hate our intellectual opponents, and this hatred does not allow us to see the opportunities and benefits that exist. When you hate someone for any reason and you hate them, you can not approach them. Getting close to someone you hate is not easy. When you approach a person you hate and dislike for any reason, you are not in a good mental state, you want to get away from him as soon as possible. On the other hand, even if you can get close to him, after a while the other party will realize your hatred and as soon as he realizes this, he will stay away from you and will not be willing to work with someone he hates. .
Unfortunately, I fully feel the existence of this hatred among our intellectual opponents in our society. However, the goal of a person is not to oppose him. Now the question is how can you hate someone and ask him not to be in the deep and invisible layers of your conscience and remove it, and then you can seemingly approach him and do an activity together that will benefit both of you? ?
Experience has shown that this is simply not possible. Emotions towards others are not something that can be hidden for a long time and prevented from affecting actions. Even if you can get rid of your resentment and hatred and do not allow it to occur in practice, as soon as the other party feels how you feel about him in your conscience, he will stay away from you and you can not work and work with him. Have a long term. Even if people seldom have this ability, it is not possible to move a society with these few people and accelerate its progress.
So far it has been that we can not work with our intellectual opponent and give him the opportunity to work for the benefit of both, because we hate him and wish he was not in our conscience.

What is the solution?
In my opinion, if we want to solve this problem, this hatred and enmity towards the intellectual opposition must be eliminated somehow. but how? What is the solution to this problem that is compatible with our religious principles?
There seem to be two solutions to this problem, a simple and common solution which, of course, in my opinion is not compatible with our religious principles, and another solution which, although not simple, is compatible with our religious principles.
The simple and common solution that is usually practiced is to be indifferent to the thought and belief and not to pay attention to it. In other words, let's believe in a kind of pluralism and pluralism in the field of knowledge. Simply put, we believe that there is no difference between our beliefs and everyone is right, or in other words, it is not clear who is right, so now that we do not know what is right and what is wrong, then why be right and wrong at all. To be thought.
What does it matter what is right and what is wrong? Why do we have to fight and disagree about ideas for which there is no difference between us?
When ideas and thoughts lose their importance, then you will have no love or hate for them and their possessors. It does not matter if you are a Muslim, a Christian, a Jew, a Buddhist or a non-believer. Christianity is as true as atheism, and irreligion is as true as Islam and Judaism. What other reason do I have for hating irreligion and irreligion? I approach them without hatred and share common interests with them. I have no particular opinion of their opinions, whether positive or negative, just as I have no opinion of the color of their clothes.
It seems like a simple solution, but it has two basic problems that we can not and should not take for granted. The first problem is that as far as my literacy is concerned